They say, “Your vibe attracts your tribe”. But what if it also works other way around?
I have wanted to write down my thoughts about this subject for quite a while with a reference to that “big city life” and how finding and holding on to people that support your ideas and daily practices can brighten up your vibe and life. But the “big pause” hit us all instead, putting this subject away in that “maybe one day” folder. Because “what life?” and “what big city?” when we are all locked up in our homes. Suddenly it really doesn’t matter what day it is, not to mention which city exactly you are locked up in. Suddenly all is irrelevant. Suddenly the only thing that has left is the virtual communication with the outer world. And suddenly it hit me. Now, maybe more than ever in our lifetime, it is important to choose who we surround ourselves (virtually) with, because it really affects our vibe and daily life.
It was last summer when I put on my summer uniform – in a form of PIXIE white linen shirt – added some red Chanel lipstick that she gave me as a present for my birthday, and went to meet my mentor. She was happy to see me and those red lips of mine, and I was happy that she has encouraged me to own them. She has been by my side for more than 10 years, lifting me up, making me believe in myself, and supporting my beliefs much more than just a fashion choices. Her presence in my life has brought so much light and power, that I just feel very fortunate whenever I think of her. As we met after many months of being in different parts of the world, we shared quite a lot but one thing really stayed with me. She was sharing her experience of her travels to India, where she returns every year with her husband, and how the time there inspires them.
We talked about how to keep that feeling alive for the rest of the year, while being at home, and I said out loud something I never really thought about before. That finding likeminded people with whom you can share the same daily practices and the same kind of values and thoughts might be the key. Gathering your own tribe, with whom together you can work on your collective and each individual vibe. Exactly what she has been to me all these years.
“The people around you, they have a lot of power. If you don’t have the right people in your life, how can you grow? As women, we make these lists when trying to find partners. We don’t do the same thing with our friends. We don’t say what we need with someone in a friendship.”
I found this Wayétu Moore quote while heading to hold my first tea ceremony in Paris. It resonated deeply and made me wonder, as I didn’t have a lot of friends there since I moved two summers ago. Now, looking back I am so grateful for all the powerful women I met that day, the poetry we read, the tea we shared and all the full moon, and indigenous people day prayers we made.
Such a beautiful and welcoming gift to see how powerful women are supporting and lifting each other up. With many of them we shared tea many times afterwards, some became my dear friends with whom I would be holding group calls right now, to lift each other during these times. I would have online tea sessions with my tea teacher in Taiwan and meditation with friend in New York.
I would discover Qigong practice with most amazing teacher from LA, that I have been wanting to do for years but never found the right master. I would have tea with girls I shared my time in tea school and uplifting talks with friends all over the world listening to how they are helping local communities in every way they can.
These times more than ever lets us choose what we welcome in our lives. Your tribe attracts your vibe. And the good news is that we finally have time for each other, because we are not busy just with ourselves anymore.
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